Monday, October 31, 2011

Dalai Lama is given the Mother Teresa International Caring Award


Senators Daschle and Dole present Dalai Lama with Mother Teresa International Caring Award

WASHINGTON, D.C. (July 13, 2011) – On behalf of the Caring Institute, Co-Chairs of the Caring Institute, Senators Tom Daschle and Bob Dole along with Caring Institute Founder and Executive Director Val J. Halamandaris presented His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet with the Mother Teresa International Caring Award for dedicating his life to promoting the values of caring, compassion and public service. The ceremony was held today at the U. S. Capitol.

“Today we were honored to recognize the peaceful work that one man has accomplished because he truly cares for the people he serves,” said Senator Daschle.

“His Holiness is driven by a sincere compassion for people,” said Senator Dole. “The Caring Institute was founded upon this same concept. Its mission is rooted in Mother Teresa’s directive that we must reverse the poverty of spirit that exists in our world today.

“In Tibetan Buddhism, a Bodhisattva is anyone who is motivated by compassion and seeks enlightenment. The Tibetan name Dalai Lama means Ocean of Wisdom. His Holiness is the personification of caring, compassion and kindness,” said Halamandaris. “Our goal is to highlight incredible people who give back to society in outstanding ways and who are truly making a difference in our world.”

This award was given by the Caring Institute. For more information about their mission and work click here!

 

 

 

Defining Respect

The Six Pillars of Character  - 
excerpted from
Making Ethical Decisions, Michael Josephson

Trustworthiness. Respect. Responsibility. Fairness. Caring. Citizenship. The Six Pillars of Character are ethical values to guide our choices. The standards of conduct that arise out of those values constitute the ground rules of ethics, and therefore of ethical decision-making. 

There is nothing sacrosanct about the number six. We might reasonably have eight or 10, or more. But most universal virtues fold easily into these six. The number is not unwieldy and the Six Pillars of Character can provide a common lexicon. Why is a common lexicon necessary? So that people can see what unites our diverse and fractured society. So we can communicate more easily about core values. So we can understand ethical decisions better, our own and those of others.

The Six Pillars act as a multi-level filter through which to process decisions. So, being trustworthy is not enough — we must also be caring. Adhering to the letter of the law is not enough — we must accept responsibility for our action or inaction.

The Pillars can help us detect situations where we focus so hard on upholding one moral principle that we sacrifice another — where, intent on holding others accountable, we ignore the duty to be compassionate; where, intent on getting a job done, we ignore how. In short, the Six Pillars can dramatically improve the ethical quality of our decisions, and thus our character and lives.
RESPECT
People are not things, and everyone has a right to be treated with dignity. We certainly have no ethical duty to hold all people in high esteem, but we should treat everyone with respect, regardless of who they are and what they have done. We have a responsibility to be the best we can be in all situations, even when dealing with unpleasant people.

The Golden Rule — do unto others as you would have them do unto you — nicely illustrates the Pillar of respect. Respect prohibits violence, humiliation, manipulation and exploitation. It reflects notions such as civility, courtesy, decency, dignity, autonomy, tolerance and acceptance.

Civility, Courtesy and Decency
A respectful person is an attentive listener, although his patience with the boorish need not be endless (respect works both ways). Nevertheless, the respectful person treats others with consideration, and doesn’t resort to intimidation, coercion or violence except in extraordinary and limited situations to defend others, teach discipline, maintain order or achieve social justice. Punishment is used in moderation and only to advance important social goals and purposes.

Dignity and Autonomy
People need to make informed decisions about their own lives. Don’t withhold the information they need to do so. Allow all individuals, including maturing children, to have a say in the decisions that affect them.

Tolerance and Acceptance
Accept individual differences and beliefs without prejudice. Judge others only on their character, abilities and conduct.

What are your thoughts on respect? How do you grow it? how do you know it when ya see it?

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

T R U S T W O R T H I N E S S | What is real?

The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie — deliberate, contrived, and dishonest — but the myth — persistent, persuasive and realistic.
— John F. Kennedy

As we continue our conversations around trustworthiness, we are called to look at the myths that have been made real. In these times of unrest we must look at the how we continue to live in the myths or seek to create NEW truths.

Some myths that are hard to know as truth or perceptions are statements like these. Business is not ethical. Government will never be ethical. Our leaders have no character. Politicians are a bunch of liars. Successful businessmen are cheats. 

While many of these statements are true in some cases, I also know them to be false.

Jacksonville does have ethical businesses like Baily Publishing run by Jim Baily. We have leaders that are character driven like Sheriff John Rutherford, who leads JSO with integrity and caring. We do have successful business men like Vince McCormack who leads Perdue Inc with respect and trust.

These individuals show us that there are truths we can count on! Each leader has allowed himself to be accountable. They have surrounded themselves with people who hold ethics to be the standard by which they act.

As we look to creating our futures, I believe it is critical for us to see what truths and myths we perpetuate. Mother Teresa NEVER went to an anti-war marches, she ONLY attended peace rallies. We can look to the truths we aspire to create by moving our hearts, hands and voices to actions that are based in our shared personal truths.

We all want communities that are based on the truth. We all know it is possible. I ask you to raise your voice and let truth be heard! Let us work to create together!

Monday, September 26, 2011

Trustworthiness: How do we define it?

The Six Pillars of Character  - 
excerpted from
Making Ethical Decisions, Michael Josephson

Trustworthiness. Respect. Responsibility. Fairness. Caring. Citizenship. The Six Pillars of Character are ethical values to guide our choices. The standards of conduct that arise out of those values constitute the ground rules of ethics, and therefore of ethical decision-making. 

There is nothing sacrosanct about the number six. We might reasonably have eight or 10, or more. But most universal virtues fold easily into these six. The number is not unwieldy and the Six Pillars of Character can provide a common lexicon. Why is a common lexicon necessary? So that people can see what unites our diverse and fractured society. So we can communicate more easily about core values. So we can understand ethical decisions better, our own and those of others.

The Six Pillars act as a multi-level filter through which to process decisions. So, being trustworthy is not enough — we must also be caring. Adhering to the letter of the law is not enough — we must accept responsibility for our action or inaction.

The Pillars can help us detect situations where we focus so hard on upholding one moral principle that we sacrifice another — where, intent on holding others accountable, we ignore the duty to be compassionate; where, intent on getting a job done, we ignore how. In short, the Six Pillars can dramatically improve the ethical quality of our decisions, and thus our character and lives.

1. TRUSTWORTHINESS
When others trust us, they give us greater leeway because they feel we don’t need monitoring to assure that we’ll meet our obligations. They believe in us and hold us in higher esteem. That’s satisfying. At the same time, we must constantly live up to the expectations of others and refrain from even small lies or self-serving behavior that can quickly destroy our relationships.

Simply refraining from deception is not enough. Trustworthiness is the most complicated of the six core ethical values and concerns a variety of qualities like honesty, integrity, reliability and loyalty.

Honesty
There is no more fundamental ethical value than honesty. We associate honesty with people of honor, and we admire and rely on those who are honest. But honesty is a broader concept than many may realize. It involves both communications and conduct.

Honesty in communications is expressing the truth as best we know it and not conveying it in a way likely to mislead or deceive. There are three dimensions:
Truthfulness. Truthfulness is presenting the facts to the best of our knowledge. Intent is the crucial distinction between truthfulness and truth itself. Being wrong is not the same thing as lying, although honest mistakes can still damage trust insofar as they may show sloppy judgment.
Sincerity. Sincerity is genuineness, being without trickery or duplicity. It precludes all acts, including half-truths, out-of-context statements, and even silence, that are intended to create beliefs or leave impressions that are untrue or misleading.
Candor. In relationships involving legitimate expectations of trust, honesty may also require candor, forthrightness and frankness, imposing the obligation to volunteer information that another person needs to know.
Honesty in conduct is playing by the rules, without stealing, cheating, fraud, subterfuge and other trickery. Cheating is a particularly foul form of dishonesty because one not only seeks to deceive but to take advantage of those who are not cheating. It’s a two-fer: a violation of both trust and fairness.

Not all lies are unethical, even though all lies are dishonest. Huh? That’s right, honesty is not an inviolate principle. Occasionally, dishonesty is ethically justifiable, as when the police lie in undercover operations or when one lies to criminals or terrorists to save lives. But don’t kid yourself: occasions for ethically sanctioned lying are rare and require serving a very high purpose indeed, such as saving a life — not hitting a management-pleasing sales target or winning a game or avoiding a confrontation.

Integrity
The word integrity comes from the same Latin root as "integer," or whole number. Like a whole number, a person of integrity is undivided and complete. This means that the ethical person acts according to her beliefs, not according to expediency. She is also consistent. There is no difference in the way she makes decisions from situation to situation, her principles don’t vary at work or at home, in public or alone.

Because she must know who she is and what she values, the person of integrity takes time for self-reflection, so that the events, crises and seeming necessities of the day do not determine the course of her moral life. She stays in control. She may be courteous, even charming, but she is never duplicitous. She never demeans herself with obsequious behavior toward those she thinks might do her some good. She is trusted because you know who she is: what you see is what you get. People without integrity are called "hypocrites" or "two-faced."

Reliability (Promise-Keeping)
When we make promises or other commitments that create a legitimate basis for another person to rely upon us, we undertake special moral duties. We accept the responsibility of making all reasonable efforts to fulfill our commitments. Because promise-keeping is such an important aspect of trustworthiness, it is important to:
Avoid bad-faith excuses. Interpret your promises fairly and honestly. Don’t try to rationalize noncompliance.
Avoid unwise commitments. Before making a promise consider carefully whether you are willing and likely to keep it. Think about unknown or future events that could make it difficult, undesirable or impossible. Sometimes, all we can promise is to do our best.
Avoid unclear commitments. Be sure that, when you make a promise, the other person understands what you are committing to do.

Loyalty
Some relationships — husband-wife, employer-employee, citizen-country — create an expectation of allegiance, fidelity and devotion. Loyalty is a responsibility to promote the interests of certain people, organizations or affiliations. This duty goes beyond the normal obligation we all share to care for others.
Limitations to loyalty. Loyalty is a tricky thing. Friends, employers, co-workers and others may demand that we rank their interests above ethical considerations. But no one has the right to ask another to sacrifice ethical principles in the name of a special relationship. Indeed, one forfeits a claim of loyalty when he or she asks so high a price for maintaining the relationship.
Prioritizing loyalties. So many individuals and groups make loyalty claims on us that we must rank our loyalty obligations in some rational fashion. For example, it’s perfectly reasonable, and ethical, to look out for the interests of our children, parents and spouses even if we have to subordinate our obligations to other children, neighbors or co-workers in doing so.
Safeguarding confidential information. Loyalty requires us to keep some information confidential. When keeping a secret breaks the law or threatens others, however, we may have a responsibility to "blow the whistle."
Avoiding conflicting interests. Employees and public servants have a duty to make all professional decisions on merit, unimpeded by conflicting personal interests. They owe ultimate loyalty to the public.
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Ethics Coalition to Launch - OCT 17th!

ANNOUNCING our first: 
Monthly Breakfast Conversation!
October 17th  •  8:30-10:00 AM
 

The growing Ethics Coalition will begin meeting monthly to foster meaningful dialogue about current character and ethics issues we all face. The sessions are designed to be highly interactive and will vary from month to month.

Featured speakers or panels will share an ethical dilemma and how they dealt with it. As a group we will explore the elements of ethical dilemmas and how they influence our individual and organizational values.
 
This month's topic: The ROI of Trustworthiness
 
How do we put a price on trustworthiness? Articulating the value of trust is possible. We all have stories of when we told the truth, what the return was. We shall discuss the value it brings to our relationships and the bottom line.

FREE for Coalition members • $10 for non-members
Visitors are welcome, and the first two times are free.
 
Meetings held at:
Perdue Office Systems
5 W. Forsyth St., Suite 100, Jacksonville, FL 32202 
 
For more info call 904-612-3934

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Trustworthiness: Knowing Your Limits!

We must not promise what we ought not, lest we be called on to perform what we cannot.    Abraham Lincoln

Recently I have been noticing within myself and others the ability to say NO to requests for time, resources, focus...It is a good thing! 

We are generally inclined to want to say YES. Well what are the implications to saying yes to everything? I personally, have had to really take a look at where my energy is invested. This has been made necessary because of several factors. 

• I am a leader of a blossoming non profit with limited financial resources.
• I am highly creative and tend to split myself too much. 
• I have a health issue, that forces me to manage my work and rest more than ever. 
• I have many wonderful relationships that I want to invest in. 

Each of these reasons I am sure you can relate to. My life is not much different than yours. We all have demands and decidign where to put out focus is a challenge. 

Many years ago, I attended the Stephan Covey 7 Habits Training. One of the most powerful things I learned there was why to say YES or NO. What I learned was that when I say YES, I put my reputation on the line. When I say NO, I prove my trustworthiness. When we say yes, we should be aware that we are then being counted on. When we are saying no, we are saying we value and respect the request and know that we are unable to do the quality of work that is necessary at this time. 

As someone who is generally highly energetic and well meaning, this is an area, I MUST be aware of and be willing to be clear about what are my intentions if I say to many yeses. 

So today, I challenge you to say yes and no appropriately!

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Ethics Coalition Meeting Schedule

These highly interactive sessions will each have several speakers, including YOU to share insights and personal experiences.  Our goal is to create a supportive space that we can all grow and evolve ethically.  


Meetings held at:
Perdue Inc.
5 W. Forsyth St. Suite 100, Jacksonville, FL 32202 


Thursdays - 7:30-9:00 am


June 14, 2012  |  Building a Socially Responsible Brand - Register NOW
This month we will explore the elements that must be considered to consciously build a brand that is socially responsible in all aspects of it's dealings. Organizations that are emotionally and socially intelligent are at the leading edge of innovation. You will learn several techniques to explore your personal social intelligence in relationship to your work.


Come join others who are seeking a deeper understanding of social responsibility and are willing to take themselves and organizations the next level. 


We will discuss:
• Aspects of social responsibility
• How emotional and social intelligence affect strategic development
• How social consciousness influences business growth and brand development
• Explore the Ethical Decision Making process to understand the ramifications of decisions.


July 19, 2012  |  Freedom & Fairness
What is freedom? How do we define fairness. These complex topics affect day to day decisions we all face. How organizations decide what is fair, affects all aspects of business, from pricing, to salaries, to business growth. We will examine the many ways to look at a decision to enable a holistic examination.




We have openings for speakers if you would like to share on the topic!


July 19, 2012  |  Freedom & Fairness


August 16, 2012  |  Caring Brands Inspire


September 13, 2012  |  Citizenship: Each Voice Matters!


October 18, 2012  |  Trustworthiness in Advertising


November 15, 2012  |  Creating Respectful Traditions


December 15, 2012  |  Responsible Business Planning